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Gay. The surest way to change
minds is to first change the language. Remember
when gay only meant happy? Three decades
before the redefinition of the word marriage came
the redefinition of the word gay. Before
then every marriage was a gay marriage, and if it wasn’t
happy and gay the couple would work at it. The word
not only changed from meaning happy to homosexual, but it
is now used to describe one’s very being, for
example: she is tall, he is smart, she is gay.
It has moved from the realm of feeling to the
realm of being; an ingenious move for those who
support a “gay rights” agenda: How can you
discriminate against someone if it is who
they are? Here are the facts. Scientifically,
there is no such thing as a homosexual. Human
beings along with 99% of the earth’s animal species
are heterosexual (a few fish, worms and algae are
asexual). There are two opposite sexes for a
specifically designed purpose. The small percentage
of people who may have same-sex attraction disorder (SSAD)
are still heterosexual, but afflicted with disordered
feelings and attractions. This distinction between
being and feelings, between “I am” language and
“I feel” language, is important when referring
to the human condition. Feelings and desires are
easily disordered; in fact everyone comes out of the womb
imbalanced in their body/mind/spirit equilibrium
manifesting itself in one way or another. Theology
explains this as the inheritance of original sin, the
secular world as not being fully self-actualized. As
a result affective disorders, perverted desires,
obsessions and addictions have always plagued man. Regardless,
all people possess human dignity and should always be
treated with care and respect. Yet, the acting out
of such disorientations and disorders contrary to human
nature should never be condoned. Such a false
tolerance is irresponsible and uncharitable. Marriage. What is it and can
it be redefined? Marriage is not, and never
has been, simply a relationship of two people that “love
each other”. Friends are two people that love
each other. Family members are two people that love each
other. Marriage is more than that. It is the
coming together of two halves of humanity, resulting in
the two b’s: bonding and babies.
This community of love and life called marriage, the
foundation of every society, is something two people of
the same sex can never achieve. We need to be clear
about this regarding the nature of marriage: It is
not that same-sex marriage is simply immoral, but
same-sex marriage is impossible. Literally.
Two selves becoming one can not occur with persons of the
same sex. Marriage is a word with meaning grounded
in objective reality, and the courts attempting to
redefine such a reality of human nature is foolish and
destructive. The one-flesh union that sex and
marriage creates, the total self-donation of one spouse
to the other, makes them literally a part of each other,
one flesh. This love is magnified when nine months
later you are able to name it (in the form of a
child). Two people of the same sex can never become
one-flesh and bond in a spousal way, nor give new life as
a fruit of their love. Marriage since the beginning
of time has never included persons of the same sex
because homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered acts
that can never achieve their proper end as unitive
(bonding) and procreative (potential babies). Would it affect your marriage?
This a favorite question of those who support a
redefinition. Immediately it would seem to have
very little affect. But persons marrying their
sisters, their Golden Retrievers or their stuffed Teddy
Bears wouldn’t immediately have an affect either.
If we don’t hand on to the next generation the
meaning of marriage that reflects its true nature,
marriage, and in turn society, will continue to gradually
weaken. We have already watered down much of
its meaning in recent decades due to three major fruits
of the sexual revolution. The acceptance of: 1. premarital
sex, which weakens marriage by giving away the
special unique gift of self spouses are meant to share
with each other exclusively, 2. divorce,
which makes the permanence of marriage as promised in
“for better or worse…until death do us part”
to be farcical, and, 3. contraception,
which creates an unconscious barrier between spouses,
renders children a burden rather than a blessing, and
necessitates masses of illegal immigrants to replace our
young population. And that’s just the
beginning. Corresponding to these three poisons are
the three goods of marriage delineated by
Augustine in 4th century, but severely
attacked since the 1970’s: Faithfulness
(weakened by fornication and adultery), Fruitfulness
(attacked by contraception and abortion), and Permanence
(mocked by divorce and remarriage). Love, life, and
permanence. Fidelity, fecundity, and
indissolubility. However you word it, without these
three essential components marriage becomes a selfish
arrangement for selfish ends. Chipping away for several decades makes this latest attack almost inevitable, and gives it foundation for a rationale: If you divorce sex from procreation as its natural end, as the contraception mentality has accomplished in the minds of many today, same-sex marriage can then be rationalized. Until we come out the other end of the sexual revolution with a proper understanding of true nature of human person, love, sexuality and marriage, we will continue to redefine human nature, morality, and law according to disordered desires rather than objective truth. A sure recipe for unhappiness.
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